I’m writing this to remind myself that nothing is static. Humans are imperfect and progressing. Interactions and attitudes are always evolving.
The other day, in a conversation with Devon, I realized that Lucy and Arthur are getting better and better at ignoring each other’s night noises. Lucy is waking up less and less when Arthur talks too loudly at bedtime or cries because he “doesn’t like to go to sleep.” Arthur is waking up less when Lucy has a particularly early morning or late night-feeding.
I never thought it would be like this. I hoped for it but I didn’t think it could be realized while my kids are tiny. But everything changes. And my kids have learned how to sleep deeper or at least to roll over and go back to sleep. I am grateful for change. Especially the little changes and adaptations that make life more livable in a small space.
So, to myself of three months ago, a self who worried that the only solution to fitfully sleeping children was to separate them (an almost impossibility in our current space): You are underestimating them. Keep working on it. Be as patient as you possibly can because things will change, probably for the better. This is good for them and good for you.
Remember. Everything changes.